Dating Survival Guide For Single Parents

Dating is hard at best and excruciating at worst, especially for single parents.  Whether you are just getting back into the dating scene or have been at it for a while, there are some simple things that will help you survive and even thrive on the whole process.

What kind of relationship do you want?

This is a critical first step to take, and something that may evolve as you date different kinds of people and discover new things about yourself.  Think about patterns from previous relationships that did not work and plan how to avoid repeating them in new relationships.  Above all, be yourself because in the end that is the best way to have a healthy relationship.

What characteristics are “musts” for your relationship?

Much like shopping for a car, house, or other significant investment, you should create a list of “musts” for your relationship.  What is most important to you?  What characteristics must the relationship (and the other person) have, no exceptions and no compromises? 

Write down your list and keep it in a place where you can review it from time to time, especially once you find yourself in a relationship.  Evaluate the relationship based on your “musts” list and if it does not measure up then move on.  Never allow the emotion and euphoria of a new relationship to cloud your judgment about characteristics that form the foundation of long-term happiness.

Start dating

Easier said than done, right?  There are many options available for you to meet interesting and available people, especially if you have thought about what you really want in a relationship.  For example, if it is important for you to date someone who is active in their church then get involved in your own church and meet some like-minded people.

Online dating is another good option, especially for single parents whose schedule is kept full with the daily responsibilities of parenthood.  When you search for potential dates online, you can do it from the comfort of your own home and on your own schedule.  It is also a good way to get to know people in an environment where information can be shared gradually over time and in a safe, convenient way such as e-mail, instant messaging and telephone calls.

Take your time

As the saying goes, you have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find a prince (or princess)!  Be patient and take your time as you journey through the world of dating.  Stay true to the “musts” that you identified early on and just be yourself.  At some point in time, you will be rewarded with a relationship that is worth the time and effort you put into creating it.