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Initial Conversations With Women, Not Being A
Wussy, And Other Gems...
By David DeAngelo
***SUCCESS STORY:
Hey Dave,
Just wanted to drop you a line on how my personal story has been going
since I started doing things "your way". I have checked every "girl
strategy" out there, you know the ones, and have to say that your
system is the most simple, and most effective one out there. Your
system gives men the start, and allows them to put their own
personal touches on it. Then, after some success, (and some
failures, of course, he he) we can come back and get even more out
of it. Awesome, man.
I'm 27, and have tried your way starting 2 years ago. It took me a
long time to get "it", but the journey has been incredible. My
friends can't believe the change in me, and I am now helping friends
who I once thought were so much better than me. My relationships
with women are so much more fulfilling now than they ever were when
I was just trying to "get laid".
I think the one fundamental issue you push, which is so overlooked, is
the idea that a man can be absolutely honest, know what he wants,
and get it. There are no tricks here, this is about being absolutely
true to yourself. That is what attracts women to us, our unfaltering
honesty, even when we are afraid that that honesty will push them
away. The exact opposite is true.
Buying dinner, flowers, kissing ass, all of that crap is, at its core
element, dishonest. Being cocky and funny, being true to yourself,
and acting like a man, is, at core element, totally honest. I think
women really appreciate that, and I think it turns them on in a way
that even they don't understand. I am really starting to get this,
and it gets better every day.
Please put out more products, we want them, and have no problem paying
a reasonable price for this information. My several different girl
"friends" each hotter than the next, appreciate this as well. My
life has never been so good. Thanks for making it that way, I owe
you way more than the price of your products, of which I have
purchased all. God bless you man, you rock.
Your friend,
M
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Yea, it really is amazing that there is a way to have success with
women... while still being an honest, straight-shooting guy.
Whodathunkit, huh?
A few more comments...
Yes, I know how frustrating it is to go searching for good information
on how to be more successful with women and dating... only to find
half-baked ideas from people who have no clue what they're doing.
And you're observation that buying women gifts, food, and flower is,
at its core, DISHONEST is pretty interesting, too.
Most of the guys who look at my stuff and say "I don't like your ideas
because I don't like to MANIPULATE women" will turn right around and
have no problem buying a woman dinner in hopes that she'll sleep
with them.
Go figure.
Well congrats on sticking with it and getting this part of your life
handled. It feels good, and I have a lot of respect for guys who
take the initiative to go DO SOMETHING.
Thanks for your email.
***SUCCESS STORY***
Here's one for the history books: David DeAngelo, the Man who made
Dating Scientific.
It's amazing how turned off women are by eager guys working hard to
impress, and how much they love the composed bad boys who refuse to
kiss ass. At a party I overheard a nearby conversation where a guy
was talking to a hot girl, basically kissing up to her with the
infinitely boring "yeah, I see what you mean" and "I really identify
with that" type responses. I just sat there with a kind of crooked
half-smile, and in a minute the girl started talking to me. I used
one of your best rules, Never Give a Woman a Direct Answer Unless
it's No. Before long, this girl was telling me I acted like a "stone
cold psycho" who could "bury somebody in a field somewhere and never
think twice". Next thing I know she's handing me her number. Now I
have no interest at all in killing people, but it cracks me up that
this chick jokes about me being a psycho and then wants to go out.
JC
Knoxville, TN
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Hey, I never said that women make sense.
lol...
You know, several serial killers have all kinds of female
"worshippers".
And have you ever noticed how when some crazy dude escapes from jail,
they always find him shackin' up with his old girlfriend?
Now, fortunately it's not necessary to be a serial killer or felon to
attract women (but it doesn't seem to hurt if you are).
Women DEFINITELY don't feel that powerful "Gut Level Attraction" for
"nice, sweet, needy guys".
ATTRACTION is a process that has developed over a LOOOOOOONG time.
It's not something that women think about and "work up to". It's not
something that women PLAN.
ATTRACTION happens for reasons all its own, and you can't CONVINCE a
woman to feel it.
You've obviously found success using these "illogical" techniques that
I teach. Good for you, and keep it up.
***COMMENT***
Hi I ordered your double dating series and read through it this
weekend...
After reading the material it struck me that this just isn't related
to attracting the opposite sex.. it relates to "everything"....like
my career, how other men respect me, etc, etc..
Their is only one thing I really want first and that is self respect,
and after that have the guts to be tough, honest, funny and take a
chance..
I have been angry with woman for a long time (and I don't mean in
violent way) but more like afraid to go out with them, or blaming
them for not being interested in me....
Its been more like confusion about what do they want,, (and then I
don't understand) which ends up in anger,, and then the cycle
continues.... I want this war to stop with myself. (because its me
being angry with myself).
I listen to men's pain all the time…and its this confusion (that men
don't understand what woman want), and also poor self esteem.. so
they settle for less and end up being bossed around and poorly
treated.......
which ends up as men exploding
with anger.........
I want all men to have their
manhood back (and I mean in a good way) treat woman well and bust
them when they push our buttons..
I think I may start having some
fun too!!!!
Sincerely
SG
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Yea, I feel ya, dog.
Here's the scenario:
You're talking to your hot female
co-worker, and she starts talking about her abusive jerk boyfriend
who is constantly treating her poorly.
You sit and listen for an hour,
hoping that she'll realize what a great guy you are... and then
consider you instead of him.
At the end of the conversation,
she stands up, says "Thanks for being such a GREAT FRIEND", and
kisses you on the cheek.
A week later, she's crying
because her jerk BF is at it again.
It's not too hard to get mad at
women for this type of thing.
I've been there.
I've had girlfriends who
basically broke up with me or never got together with me in the
first place... and instead chose to be with guys who didn't treat
them well.
But you're on the right track
here.
Stop blaming women.
Instead, start learning how to
make them feel that powerful ATTRACTION for YOU.
Sure, it takes a little effort.
But I cannot imagine a greater investment in yourself and your
personal life.
Nice!
I'm looking forward to hearing a
Success Story from you very soon.
***SUCCESS STORY***
Dave,
I have received your emails for
quite sometime now and never did buy the book but after this weekend
I have to get the whole nine yards. You have said not to be needy
and to treat the women like little sister brats. Believe you me it
works amazingly. I am engaged to a 9 and lately things seemed to get
a little boring. My girlfriend started acting a little distant so I
thought why not. I didn't tell her I loved her as quickly and quit
going for a little kiss when the feeling took hold. In other words I
took two steps forward and one step back. She looked at me kinda
funny a couple of times and then just jumped my bones right on the
couch in the middle of the day when we were expecting friends over
for a bar-b-que. I kept the cocky and funny up all night and through
the rest of the weekend. By Sunday night things were going just as
hot as when we first met. Your material kept a fire from dying into
ashes. Hope your printing doesn't run out before my next payday.
LOL.
J in Texas
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Yea, you'd better get on it...
Even worse than not being able to
meet women in the first place is meeting an EXCEPTIONAL woman and
then LOSING her because you're a jackass.
You do her and yourself a favor,
and save your pennies for my ADVANCED SERIES.
Hell, she'll probably buy it for
you if you can't.
Even though I don't talk about
"relationships" very often, I will say that the REAL challenge
begins when you have one.
Keeping a relationship fresh,
fun, and interesting is quite a challenge... and you're not going to
do it if you turn into a Wussy as time goes on.
Good job, man. Keep it up.
***COMMENT FROM A WOMAN***
Dear David: You sad, misbegotten,
hopeless fool. No wonder you have such hideous luck with women.
With your philosophy, it's an
absolute guarantee that will continue.
Good luck with the sad,
misbegotten, hopeless women you are guaranteed to attract, and that
you doom your pathetic, clueless subscribers to attract.
Omigod.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Wow, your sad, hopeless,
misbegotten... and REDUNDANT email really put me in my place.
And what are you talking about
"hideous luck" with women? I date the smartest, hottest, and most
interesting women running around on the planet.
Get a life, and call up the
Redundancy Department Of Redundancy for some tips on how to not
sound like a dumbass.
DAMMIT! I just broke my own rule
again of not allowing any letters from people who prove beyond the
shadow of a doubt that they are a JACKASS within the first three
sentences of their email.
When will I ever learn?
***QUESTION***
Hi, I have a quick question. I
started playing bass because I thought women liked musicians. that
was six years ago. It's true, I do get a lot of attention because of
my skill at the instrument, but I can't seem to hang on to a
girlfriend. What are your views on women and musicians?
>>>MY COMMENTS:
I think you need the answer to a
DIFFERENT question.
The question that YOU need the
answer to is:
"What are my views on women and
WUSSIES?"
...because I'll bet you a dollar
that the problem is you turning INTO A WUSSY.
When a guy can't seem to hold on
to a woman, the problem is ALMOST ALWAYS one of the following:
1) He turns into a clingy, needy
Wuss at some point during the relationship.
2) He becomes PREDICTABLE and
BORING at some point during the relationship.
So stop doing those things.
And instead learn how to keep the
ATTRACTION building and growing.
It's possible, but you must LEARN
how.
Stay tuned for more good info.
Oh, and stop committing the two
sins that I mentioned above in the meantime.
***QUESTION***
I've been reading your emails
for about two months now, and I love your stuff! Very interesting
and enlightening. But I have a conundrum that brings up a good
question.
I'm 32 years old, married for 10
years, three kids, suburban house, white picket fence, 3.2 pets in
the house, yadda yadda (The .2 pet is just a pitiful thing, hobbling
around on two legs ...) Kidding. Anyway, I read in an earlier email
that your ideas and methods work even in a marriage relationship,
and that you can still build attraction even with someone you've
been with forever. Now, if what I am reading is correct, your core
concept of attraction has to do with mystery and anticipation,
rather than chivalry and "niceness." Now, this lady has seen me with
my pants down around my ankles with a fly swatter and a jar of
peanut butter (figuratively speaking); how can I build anticipation
and mystery when she knows me so well? If I try the three minute
kiss test thing, she gonna slap my hand and say "Stop playing with
my hair; I just had it colored! Go take out the garbage! And stop
playing with the peanut butter!" Any insight would be a help!
Thanks!
D.C. Northern CA
>>>MY COMMENTS:
"...a conundrum that brings up a
good question"?
She's gonna SLAP YOUR HAND?
And tell you to go take out the
garbage?
Dude, you're in major trouble.
I've heard of men in your position waking up with a key part of
their anatomy missing.
It's not pretty.
From the sounds of it, you may
already be missing some of this aforementioned equipment.
Better check.
I'll tell you what...
You have two basic choices:
1) Buy your wife some new pants
and yourself a new skirt, because it's obvious that this is what
she's expecting.
2) Remove your high-heels, your
apron, and your WUSSY ATTITUDE, and HE-BITCH-MAN-SLAP yourself
IMMEDIATELY!
Man, WAKE UP.
I know, I know... I don't like to
talk about marriage and relationships. Again, I just couldn't help
myself.
Look, Mystery and Anticipation
don't have anything to do with you walking around with your pants
down carrying a fly swatter and a jar of peanut butter.
It has to do with how you
communicate with her... how you touch her... how you kiss her... and
how you behave. You obviously need to learn this stuff.
And by they way, what the hell
are you doing walking around in front of your wife with your pants
down carrying, OF ALL THINGS, a fly swatter and PEANUT BUTTER?
Sounds to me like there's
something you're not sharing with us.
And I'm not going even speculate.
I'm scared.
***QUESTION***
I just started the DVD series,
and I can't say enough good things about it. I can already feel my
confidence and self-image improving.
I realized something recently
that I'm sure you and a lot of other guys have encountered. When I
talk to my guy friends about girls I'm dating or interested in, they
tend to encourage and push me to action. When I talk to my female
friends about girls I'm dating or interested in, they tend to say
negative things about the girl and plant doubts in my head. What do
you think about that? Even though there's no romantic interest
between me and my female friends, are they acting competitive on
some subconscious level?
R.C, Dallas
>>>MY COMMENTS:
THE ANSWER IS YES.
If you think MEN are competitive,
just wait until you start dating more WOMEN.
You will not believe how
competitive women are.
A friend of mine pointed
something out to me a few years ago.
He said "You know when you go out
to a nice bar or club, and all the women are dressed up, have their
hair done, and their makeup perfect? Well they're not fixed up like
that for the men... it's for the other WOMEN."
Now, at first that made no sense
to me.
But the more I've paid close
attention, the more I realize that it's RIGHT ON.
Women are VERY competitive.
In fact, one of the best ways to
meet women is to GO OUT with a cute female friend (or more than
one).
Women are always more interested
in a guy who already has women around him than a guy who doesn't.
This is one of the reasons why so
many married guys talk about how much more often they're approached
by women now that they're married...
Female psychology is VERY
interesting.
You will learn a TON as you go
through my DVD program. It's going to blow your mind.
If you think you're feeling
confident now, just wait until you get further into it... and then
go out and try some of the things you're learning... and then come
back and watch it again.
That program is like a treasure
map, with all the clues you need to find the gold.
It has taken me YEARS to really
put all of the pieces together... from female behavior and
psychology, to ATTRACTION, to the things you need to do to change
your self-image and shyness around women into comfort and success.
Thanks for the comments. ...and
if you're reading this right now and you're thinking "Yea, that's
what I need... to get this part of my life handled", then guess
what?
YOU'RE RIGHT.
You do.
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David DeAngelo is the author of
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Successful With Women", and has taught thousands of men how to be
more successful with women and dating.
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